One of the best books I can recommend for all of you about-to-be wed couples is The Marriage Book: Centuries of Advice, Inspiration, and Cautionary Tales from Adam and Eve to Zoloft by Lisa Grunwald and Stephen Adler (Simon & Schuster, $35).
This 514-page tome, filled with fascinating comments, observations and advice about married life, will keep you thoroughly engaged. The authors have done extensive research and cite historians, politicians, philosophers, playwrights, celebrities and more on the state of matrimony. There are references to TV shows, movies and plays. Love letters from the famous and not-so famous are included, as well as beautiful illustrations and photographs. The chapters include categories such as Children, Fidelity, Friendship, Jealousy, Passion, Secrets and Sickness and Health. It is, in turn, enlightening, humorous and incredibly moving (read "A Miner’s Wife Letter, 1914," written after a mining accident in Whitehaven, England, page 96).
According to the authors — married since 1988 and “planning to stay that way” — one of the most important things they learned about marriage is, as stated by Lisa Grunwald, that “couples have faced so many of the same issues through time — fidelity, honesty, independence, fights, in-laws, keeping passion alive, or letting it go.” And, as Stephen Adler notes, “We also saw that marriages don’t fare well as love affairs when they become too routine, domesticated, comfortable…couples need to bring freshness, distance, even wildness to their relationships in order to remain lovers as well as friends.” But above all, the authors say, there has to be respect. “Marriage is a long conversation,” says Lisa. “And you have to be prepared to talk to one another for the rest of your life.”
One of my favorite sections is a 1939 “Marital Rating Scale” for husbands and wives listing “50 Demerits” and “50 Merits” for each. Check out some of the demerits for a wife. You’ll be grateful that you’re a 21st-century bride!
- Fails to sew on buttons or darn socks regularly.
- Wears red nail polish.
- Squeezes toothpaste at the top.
- Eats onions, radishes or garlic before a date or going to bed.
- Is more than 15 pounds overweight.
- Shoulder straps hang over arms or slip is uneven and shows.
- Wears pajamas instead of nightgown.
- Visits mother too often — a spoiled child.
- Insists on driving the car when husband is along
- Walks around the house in stocking feet.
(Well, I think I’ve earned just about every one of these demerits!)
Treat yourself to this fabulous new book and give The Marriage Book to friends or family members. It’s a keeper! Available at book stores nationwide and amazon.com.
#1 MAKING PLANS BEFORE SETTING BUDGET
"Julie Song is the designer behind so many of the invitations I love most in the world. Her watercolor and calligraphy-centric pieces feel romantic, ethereal and purely beautiful."
—Abby Larson, creator ofStyle Me Pretty
"These custom save-the-date calendar stamps from Diva Gone Domestic on Etsy are adorable! They will personalize them with your wedding information and then you choose what material to stamp it on."
—Jen Carreiro, creator ofSomething Turquoise
Photo Credit: Diva Gone Domestic
"This program by Anna Lou Avenue on Etsy, is unique and so useful: You can tuck tissues or a thank-you note inside for your guests — or send-off items such as confetti or a sparkler."
—Brenda B. Maille, creator ofBrenda’s Wedding Blog
Photo Credit: Anna Lou Avenue
"I love when escort cards do double duty as favors, like this style designed by Invision Events, which is paired with mini bottles of one couple’s favorite spirits."
—Jess Levin, creator ofCarats and Cake
Photo Credit: Morgan Trinker
"Why not wrap your menu around a single baguette for each guest to enjoy? These wraps are from Mavora Art and Design on Etsy."
—Brenda B. Maille, creator ofBrenda’s Wedding Blog
Photo Credit: Mavora Art and Design
“I love the way that Laura Damiano Designsincorporated the shape of the signature cocktail liquor into her tray-passed signage!"
—Leila Lewis, creator ofInspired By This
Photo Credit: Laura Damiano Designs
“The bride asked for a color palette of all things pink, so we took that wish and ran with it. The flowers — particularly the ombré table runners and centerpieces — played a key role in bringing her wishes to life." —Cmdress.co.nz
A tufted antique couch anchors a cozy setting for the bride to bond with her future ’maids. Inside each balloon is a note that “pops” the “be my bridesmaid” question.
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Whilst the name Ivy & Aster may be fairly new to me, the Atlanta based brand is renowned for its romantic-meets-bohemian style. Designing with a flowing femininity, sprinkled with sweet simplicity and a dash of whimsy, they create wedding dresses that capture a brides heart. And with this their latest collection, they have really taken romance to a new level!
“Why not be adventurous and let your dress speak the ‘Language of Flowers’?” asks Ivy & Aster founder and designer Jessica Brown “Our Spring 2016 collection is inspired by all things floral and the beauty that flowers symbolize in weddings.” As well as signature Ivy & Aster fabrics: Silk chiffon, silk organza, tulle, and lace; this season special hand picked laces were chosen to play on the floral garden theme. Showcasing gowns with timeless illusion necklines, flowing skirts, sheer long sleeves and portrait backs, the collection also features some of the key current trends with low backs, separates and even floral prints – which I just know you are going to love!
“Ivy & Aster brides know what makes them feel beautiful” says Jessica “and these cheap bridal dresses will let the bride be radiant on her wedding day.” So sit back, and imagine taking a stroll through the most lovely of gardens with a wedding taking place among the flowers, as you peruse these elegant delights…..
If you’re a regular visitor here, you will know that when it comes to Bridal designers, I definitely have my favourites! Those with unique style and vintage flair, the likes of Gwendolynne, Johanna Johnson, Claire Pettibone and Jenny Packham, whose names appear time and time again on the pages of Chic Vintage Brides. Whilst I am simply unable to resist their glorious bridal gowns, you may also have noticed in recent months a few new names appearing, like Sally Lacock, Myra Callan, Celia Grace and House of Mooshki, as each one has caught my eye with their latest modern-vintage offering. Well today I am addingIvy & Aster to that list, and you won’t have to scroll through much of their enchanting ‘Through the Flowers’ collection to see why!…..
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